Purpose as an Empty Nester

Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines Purpose as something set up as an object or end to be attained. It is also defined as an intention, resolution, or determination.  But how would it pertain to empty nesters?  How can we find purpose as an empty nester?

If we go according to the literal definition in the dictionary, we can say that being an empty nester is our purpose.  After all purpose is defined as something set up as an object or end to be attained.

 

Isn’t this exactly where we were heading when we started parenting in the first place? To have joyful children, ready to face the world?

 

 

What is our purpose as empty nest parents ?

Isn’t it to raise independent children into adulthood, equipping them with all the tools to grow and make good decisions?  Our role as parents of adults is to be a good example of what is right, to be available with advice, not criticism, and to know when it is best to hold our peace.

The general supposed definition of purpose varies from person to person.

Some say it is to find out who you are meant to be. However, others say what you love doing is a clue to your purpose, hmm, I don’t know.  Actually, I do know.

Your role is not to do what you love, it is to do what is right. Especially for your family, for your children, for your Lord, and for yourself.

“We will have different roles at different stages of our lives: mother of toddler, realtor, artist, advocate, caregiver. Sometimes we will be very busy in a role, and it can feel all-consuming. Roles will take us on different paths. Roles come and go. But purpose is another matter. Purpose is constant. Purpose is eternal.” Lori Ann Wood, Joyfullifemagazine.com

 

The Bible says that our purpose on this earth is to make God happy and to follow his commandments. Has that purpose changed now that we are Empty Nesters? I say, No.

 

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37-39).

 

Continuing in God’s plan for your life, is the empty nester’s purpose.

Continuing to be an example to that student who still needs guidance and to the scared college grad who feels like they are not ready to “adult” yet. And to the young mother and father that “know” that they are not ready to “adult” yet. This is the life long role as a mother.  We are passing through times and phases in our lives, and these are our roles in life.  

Journaling through the roles in our lives is a form of self-care. And helps keep our mind clear so that we can fulfill our purpose. This free guide will help you start your journey with journaling.

Your role in life is not the same as your purpose in life.

My mother is still parenting and she is 85yo.  She raised us, was super grandmother to our children (nursing cape and all), and then to our grandchildren.

My mother was there every day while my nephew and niece went to work through newborn 1,2, and 3 and has been their after school grandmother to this day.  These great grandchildren are now 5, 7, and 9. 

She told me once that the moment she saw my first born daughter, her first granddaughter, she knew her purpose.

 

So then you may ask, “What can I do to feel like I am fulfilling my purpose”?

You can serve others to fulfill their needs.

“In our quest for our next role, we must consider where our gifts and passion intersect with someone else’s need. That’s our sweet spot. But this will take some prayer. After all, even if we can pinpoint our own gifts and passion, only God could know the deep soul needs of others that cry out to be filled. As we seek to continue our eternal purpose in Him, we keep searching for custom-fit roles that need our touch.” Lori Ann Wood

Journaling through the roles in our lives is a form of self-care. And helps keep our mind clear so that we can fulfill our purpose. This free guide will help you start your journey with journaling.  Please join the conversation and leave a comment to share your insight. Smiles.